I am a disabled senior woman, age 72. About two years ago, I moved to a Senior Mobile Home Park in Southern California. It seemed like a dream - it was nestled in a canyon in a rural area just below the mountains, the space rent was low (I am low income), and I could have my pets and I had a big yard too so I could pursue my love of gardening. The park had an older clubhouse and pool, and I envisioned a peaceful life there.
Right away when I went to the coffees on Monday mornings, I noted that some of the seniors were always saying mean things to me. I tried to ignore it and do things that I thought might make a change in their attitude toward me. I volunteered to do the park newsletter, which no one else wanted to do. I started taking care of the rose garden near the clubhouse which also no one else wanted to do and which was dying from the lack of care and proper watering. Around the same time, I joined Citizens Patrol and also volunteered as a City Commissioner for Public Works and Safety. I became aware that the comments grew meaner and there were other things too like everyone sitting at the tables so that there was no place left for me to sit and I would have to sit by myself.
Each week a man would bring free food and it would be distributed, but some people took everything for themselves and left nothing for others of us unless it was something no one wanted.
Over time, the rejection of me grew. People seemed to hate me because I was an artist and because I worked at as a substitute instructional aide with special needs children. I began to stop going to the clubhouse and the pool, and began to just pretty much stay in my own home. I did have two friends who were artists in the park, and I began to spend time with them. But when we would have picnics at my friends' homes in their yards or porches, the people who were harassing me seemed to be stalking me. They would follow me everywhere in the park.
We had neighborhood watch meetings in the park at the clubhouse about a year ago in July, and I went to one. This senior woman who had bullied a lot of other people in the neighborhood was there and she began to act crazy in front of the deputy, who basically did nothing. She began calling me a bitch in front of everyone, and it was as if the people were cheering her on. Then she called me even worse sexual names and came across the room, threatening to hit me again in front of the deputy. Again, he did nothing. I got up and went home and I was in tears once I got there. She had written two notes about me that were untrue to Citizens Patrol and to City Hall. It was horrible. A friend of mine who was on the Council got me copies of the letters which were unsigned. The allegations were a nightmare and totally untrue. I became extremely depressed and concerned that this might also affect my ability to work.
I was afraid I was being stalked going to work so it put a lot of extra stress on me. In November of 2013, I had a stroke, and I still remember how it affected me - I had been so depressed and stressed, I could hardly carry on. The people living around me were so obvious in their bullying, and I had called the sheriff's deputies, the Adult Protective Services, Social Services, and every other organization I could think of to get help. In the end result, no one offered any real help. Social Services tried to get counseling or a support group for me, but because I have Medicare, they could not get me anything. They told me I had to go through Medicare. I am low-income, so could not afford the $25 weekly co-pay, and did not get anything.
This year (2014) has been the worst. I have almost been assaulted some 5 times totally here, the people next to me (and these are ALL seniors) have been selling and dealing drugs since I have lived here. People have come on my property even though I put up no trespassing signs and they have damaged and destroyed my property. I have reported it to the external management and they have done nothing about it.
On June 25, I was suddenly assaulted by a woman in the park when I was on park property. The woman has major mental problems and I know it. She is a major hoarder, and can't even sleep in her own home, nor does she have any utilities on there. She believes that she owns the properties adjoining hers and has hit other people in the park and threatened one of my friends that she has a gun and would use it. But although I reported it to the sheriff's deputy, they could not file a report, so I had to sign a Citizen's Arrest. They did not take her in, but a court date was set. I had to go to ER and my glasses were broken, But when I showed up on the day that the court date was set, I found that it has been dropped because they said there were no witnesses.
The night that happened, the man across the street from me and his girlfriend, two of the major bullies, put nails in my driveway and those of my two friends. One of my friends called the police and the nails were removed. Nothing happened to the bullies.
Shortly after that, one night I was having a major asthma attack, and around 8:15 I knew I had to go to the drugstore to get some medicine since I could barely breathe. At precisely the time I went out the door and got down the stairs, the drug dealing neighbors had loosed their two dogs, who came running and barking at me, scaring me very badly. I yelled at them, and as I did, I became aware that the neighbors across the street were video taping me. They began to taunt me, calling me horrible names, and the man, who was drunk, kept coming closer and closer to me, trying to do everything he could to get me to react. I was having such a difficult time trying to think as all I could think of was that I could not breathe and needed to get into the car and get out of there, which I did. As I was trying really hard to get my stick shift out (which is difficult for me as I have spinal stenosis and osteoarthritis), the man kept getting in front of me and I could not seem to get him out of the way. All of this time, he was throwing fingers at me, and his girlfriend was yelling obscenities at me and still filming me.
I did manage to get out of the park, and immediately called the police. They came, but got called away on a more important call. They said they would come back. So I left with a little relief to go and get my medicine. When I came back, I went into my home, but that man and the woman were still out there. When the police came back, they ran over to them and told them I tried to run him over. And this man took out a restraining order against me, lying and and also telling them I was always yelling at him and trying to hurt them.
Their friend who came to serve the papers scared me, running up to me yelling and shouting and trying to come on my porch. I was terrified, thinking she was going to hurt me. She shot her girlfriend in the stomach, and the girlfriend would not report her because she knew the woman would finish the job. This is the kind of people we have here. Anyway, she was pushing on my porch and I was trying to stop her from coming on it because of the way she was yelling and pushing everything. Instead of just telling me she had papers to serve, she continued to act, and the people across the street had again filmed it all, so it was another staged event. They had planned for her to do it this way to scare me. Now she too is trying to take out a restraining order on me.'
In the end, I have had to file some 5 Elder Abuse restraining orders, but I have to deal with all those bullies and drive nearly 100 miles to go to court out in the desert three days in a row. It is hugely stressful and I have no attorney, so I am trying to be brave, knowing I will have to face these bullies under the worst of circumstances.
For awhile, I felt as though I wanted to end it all. I have pets and would never leave them without anyone to care for them. But I am still pretty majorly depressed and just doing the best I can to keep going. I am attending an online university to become a freelance paralegal and I do go to church and volunteer in several online positions.
I just wanted everyone to know that bullying isn't just something that happens to children or young people. I am definitely not the only one in my park being bullied. We just wish most sincerely that someone could help us to get this stopped. Most of us cannot afford physically or financially to move. With my animals, it is very difficult to find a place to go. Thank you kindly for reading this. It is making the last years of our lives very sad indeed. Peace and many blessings always
D'Artagnan has been teaching about Anti-Bullying for some years now on and offline; and now we want you to know about D'Artagnan a kind and loving being with something to teach all of us about life and how we can all better the world around us.
His life isn't great but he tries to make the best of it by helping others; one tool he uses on a online chat site called Tinychat were hundreds of people come online to talk and make friends with each other from around the world. Now I will say the D'Artagnan hasn't made a lot of friends on there cause the fact that he wants people to do the right thing online but for the people that do agree with him and love him for fighting back to help people we thank you for supporting us and him.
As many of you know Cyber-bullying shows no time soon it will really stop but I do know there are ways we can help cut down on it. As many of you know it starts at home, some of us had mums or dads that kept us in line but there are few that fear their own kids and in doing so they let them do as they please and the kid thinks he or she can get away with it outside the home. and that's where the bully is born then it starts in school and goes online and from there its no stopping them, they say what they want not matter how it makes others feel and even hurt other with physical contact. but fear not homes and schools I say if we start cracking down on the bullies in schools and online others will see its not a game and that they need to stop as well. What should we do you ask? Well if you just take the time to look at what the kid is doing online at home it may put some fear in them to stop doing it, but what if i fear my kid you ask? them get the cops into what they are doing and show them that someone can stop you if you are in fear. With how we act online there shouldn't be any crying when the Gov starts looking into what we do and "spying" on us cause when you think about it we do it to our self's really cause just be going online and thinking we can get away with anything and everything we are telling the Gov "Fu#@ You" and I'm sure you all know what comes next the "big brother" world will be born and come to live cause of a few bullies that just had to beat up on others cause they need that little fix of power to feel like they run things. I say just report them to the FBI online they have a unit that deals with Cyber-bullies and many other online matters.
In this world we live in it seems to be a dog eat dog but it doesn't have to always be that way, I'm sure our mums and dads told us to not be rude and respect older people around us. Respect is both ways we should al respect each other older or younger this is what I mean by playing nice online and offline. So do i think bullies need to see jail to set them straight not really cause jail is a place for animals I say that should be a last step if nothing else work with him or her show them what could happen if they keep down that road of bullying others.
Every day thousands of kids across the country are bullied were I like to start out is that I was once bullied and never had no were to go for help the teachers of the schools didn’t what too do. Now in Pueblo, Co my home that I called home for 24 yrs is now enforcing a new law Both D-60 and D70 are approving a anti-bullying program that has teamed up with local businesses that agreed to be safe havens for victims of bullying. Therefore Schools across my town are butting posters around pueblo, there on the posters are were the designate the “safe havens” places.
Then after several articles that I gone though to see if my town had there bullies from mostly everyday life, where is came across that Pueblo also does a relay to support anti-bullying and to stand up for people getting bullied, there I was wrong that Pueblo didn’t “have a system” So I was wrong about my town that the city council wasn’t doing anything about and just throwing there noses in the air to ignore it.
I’m glad that bullying in being resolved in Pueblo, Co and I proud to say that I’m here for my Lovely town to Stand up too Bullying.
hi i am Samantha some of you know me as sammy_rainbow from the ordoinc community..
I have recently been a victim of bullying ... i would love to share my story with you guys..
sophia the character in this story is actually me.! :p
"Mom just doesnt get it! " Sophia thought in her mind. Sophia is a victim of bullying she has kids giving her dirty looks and calling her mean crual rude names! . Sophia once tried to commit suciside. she feels like she is nothing to the world like she can just roll up into a ball and stay in a corner and no one would notice. she walks the hallway of the middle school scared of turning the hallway scared , hopeless... she is scared of being made fun of wht she wears or how she looks.♥ sophia has just had a recent death in her family her grandfather passed away and her little brother she sees a therapist every week for the bullying the therapist put her under the catogory as deep depression. She is seeing a grief group to at school. Rumors were spreading around the school about sophia apparently she is being accused of talking about people. The rumor got around a person heard it and said they were going to jump her after school.. well sophia was walking home after shcool that day by her self. seven kids surronded her! they had snowballs in there hands ready to throw. They started telling her she was ugly fat and worth nothing that she should die. They eventually started throwing the snowballs at her. One of them came up to her and started punching her she screamed for help! ... They left .. She was layin on the ground all alone crying . Her mom came lookin for her because she was late getting home. The mom found her. the next day at school she was at lunch she could hear everybody talking about her . she started to get really upset and . One person waved hi to her and another person said dont say hi to her she has a diese.! she starting crying she ran for the bathroom she started to bawl her eyes out! This has been goin on the whole year . she has been cybered bullied on her facebook status it says "F*** you" she feels as if this will never end ! this is still happening to this day.
Love samantha ♥
When I was 13yrs. old, I was bullied for 4yrs. I was called so many names that were hurtful and I got really depressed to the point where I didn't want to live. I tried to attempt suicide which the whole entire school found out and they just laughed at me. To make matters worse, my dad didn't really care at all, it just seems like he cared but he would just put me down alot. I had some friends but they stop being my friends after what happen then I learned what it liked to be lonely. When I got into high school, I thought it be easy and people don't pick on me but they still did saying that "Special Ed kids are stupid people". I can't help having a learning disability. There was this one girl that was nice to me and she was always telling me, "You gotta smile and be happy. I thought I see her again but she committed suicide. She took her life and I don't know why she did it. She always showed that she was happy. It was hard. I cried when it happened. Its been an ongoing thing, I can tell people I am not depressed and I am happy but deep down inside I do feel like this. I lost alot of my teeth due to the contamination of the water which has caused me to wear dentures. I can't help that but being laughed at, just hurts. I'm older now but I still get bullied by my dad everyday, some of my co-workers and just people in general. I always feel like I don't fit in society cause I'm different and always will be.
So I was babysitting this 9 year old boy and he happens to be getting bullied at the school he currently goes to. When he told me this I couldn’t believe that he would get bullied and how they start at such a young age. We were in my car going up to his moms work to drop him off and he looked at me and told me that he doesn’t like the school he goes to and I had asked him why and he told me that kids just come up to him and call him names and sometimes even punch him for no reason and I told him that there is no reason for people to be bullying people it’s not nice and it hurts a lot of people’s feelings. Then he looked at me and told me that his mom told him that if someone comes up to him and hits him and he hits back and stands up for himself and gets suspended for hitting she would buy him ice cream.
I just don’t get how kids think its okay to make fun of each other it hurts and it leads to a lot of things like cutting, depression, and even killing yourself. NO ONE should be put in this situation and to be bullied.
Hi. I'm Christina. This is my story.
In elementary school I was overweight. It bothered me so much I purged. When me and my family would go out to eat, I wouldn't order anything. It made me so mad sometimes I'd threaten to kill myself. I've been into self harm since the sixth grade. I hide it from everyone. I've never told anyone. I get bullied ALL the time. I have people walk up to me and call me names... I skip school and stay online to get away from it all. That still doesn't help. I get bullied every time I show my face on the internet. I have trust and relationship issues. Lots of people have problems with me. Even my "friends" have problems with me. I get judged, misplaced, and mistreated. I just want help. People think everything's okay with me. Nothing's okay.
It all started in elementary school in 5th grade when i was called a lesbian by a group of girls that thought they were better then everyone else. and they made people feel awful about themselves well i guess i was there next victim because they started calling me that and i said no and they were like yeah you are.
And i kept saying no and it kept going on till middle school, beginning of 6th grade then the girl who started it came over and apologized for saying that about me but none of the other people apologized for what they did and yeah it did hurt but i realized as i got older that i don't need people to apologize because i can move on from it.
And yeah iv been called ugly and anorexic and those hurt to but i was bullied again in 8th grade because i was laughed at for expressing feeling about liking this boy in middle school after that experience i have trouble expressing my feelings towards people i liked well now i kinda still kinda have that trouble but now its better because i have a loving boyfriend that i can tell anything to and express my feelings to and he made me realize that i can tell him how i feel because he wont laugh at me and make fun of me for it and after all that i became who i am today a strong person.
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